I was catching up with one of my close friends last week and we were discussing a recent case I’d read about where a husband and wife battled it out in court for 7 years spending crazy amounts of money because she knew he had money and he claimed he was bankrupt. I explained to my friend how I just didn’t get it. I understand the animosity built up over the course of a divorce and the heightened feelings of resentment but surely the children should be kept out of it?
The two children (teenagers) in this particular case were taken out of private school and the mother was single-handedly raising them. One of the reasons she fought the case (for so long) was for all women out there who were in the same position.
And then my friend so aptly said: “It all comes down to how much the father values the child”. She hit the nail on the head with that one. If a father has the money but still chooses not to support his children, what value is he putting on his children? On their education, on their standard of living? And how are his children supposed to respect him?
Granted, their may have been things the mother did that the media didn’t report but ultimately, she was raising their two girls on her own. In the end she was awarded £20 million, but not before attending 56 hearings, and only after she spent about £6.5 million on various solicitors and barristers.
It does make you question parental responsibility and what it really entails. At the end of the day, you can’t force someone to support their child if they really don’t want to but for the sake of your child, you can try.